-"You" are telling yourself your marriage is going to be this way or that way.... "You're" implanting misbeliefs.
-"You" are telling yourself your children will be like this or that, and They will never do that... "You" are (or) have implanted misbeliefs.
-"You" are placing all of your trust in others..."You" may be frustrated plenty, because "You" have implanted a misbeliefs.
-"You" are placing expectation on others, "You" may be highly disappointed, because "You" have implanted a misbelief.
HERE ARE A FEW TIPS TO HELP (GOD-WILLING)
Instead of Saying: My Wife is terrible because she even treats the dog better than she treats me.
Say: She is not treating me the way I would expect, but life with her is not intolerable, we have good times.
Instead of Saying: My kids are such failures, They are an embarrisment.
Say: My children are God-Given, and although I would prefer for them to act differently, I can look at the beauty that God has put in them, God knows best.
Instead of Saying: The people I have around me are a waist of my time, money and breath.
Say:The people that are around me, are around for a reason, so what and when I give to them, I give not as a barter, ploy or sway; but as a charity that I may find with my Lord one day.
*** This technique is not for abusive or oppressive matters, There is a difference.***